We choose not to tell our family straight out what kind of relationship we have. He has been calling me babygirl in front of our family for quite some time, but it has taken me a little longer to openly call him daddy. I guess it was just that fear of what other people would say, but recently I just stopped caring what they thought. Its our relationship, our lives, and its what makes us happy. Daddy informed me this morning that I get a "maintenance" spanking tonight. I usually get these once a week. They don't hurt, and its not hard like a spanking I get when I'm being punished. Its just to remind me that he is daddy, I am babygirl, and that I need to be good. I like it. I'm sure not every daddy/babygirl choose to do this.
I worry about how we are going to continue this kind of relationship when our daughter gets older. I mean, he only spanks me in the privacy of our own room, but it still makes noise. And how do you explain to your daughter why YOU call him daddy as well? What will we say to her when she goes to a friends house and realizes that not all parents interact with each other like we do? Not every mother chooses to obey their husband like I do. How will I explain that to her? And what do we do when she asks another family member about it? There are so many things to figure out now that she is here. I wish I could just find the answers. I haven't found very many good blogs or websites about daddy/baby girl. And I haven't found ANY that talk about how to do this with children involved. Maybe some of my readers know of some sites that could offer some suggestions? Any other good blogs?? Anything would help...
I know many couples that choose for the man to be head of household because of biblical reasons. This is not why my husband and I choose it. We are actually both practicing Pagans. Which, as you can imagine, is something else we choose not to openly share with many of our family members. Most of them know that we are "into some weird stuff" as they so delicately put it, but there are very few people we actually openly discuss it with. My mothers side of the family are really the only ones we can talk about it with, because most of them follow a similar spiritual path. My mother practices Wicca, my grandmother is a green witch, my great grandmother was also a green witch (though she didn't choose to call it that), and my stepfather is currently a student of the path. A lot of people see my daddy and I as a contradiction. Many Pagan paths exult the power of the great feminine, and express a message of the power and importance of women. And I COMPLETELY embrace the sacred feminine. I love my connection with the Goddess, and I understand the power I posses as a woman. When I open circle and practice magick, I am no submissive. I embrace the full exuberance and power of the Goddess as she offers it to me. To me, there is no feeling in the world like feeling the power of the Lady course through my body. But I choose to recognise the power of the Lord as well. One cannot exist without the other. Both the Lord and Lady have a special place in my life. To me, my Daddy represents the presence of the Lord in my ever day life. He is my protector, my strength, and my provider. I could not have created my beautiful daughter without him. I would not know love the way I know it without him. Both our spiritual choices, and our choice to have a dominant/submissive type of relationship fit perfectly into our every day lives.
I would love to hear others opinions on this. Please feel free to comment, both pros and cons.
Blessed Be!
